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Relationship Anxiety and the Million-Dollar Question
It’s the question that wakes you up on the middle of the night. It’s the question that gnaws at your gut and makes your stomach drop with roller-coaster fear. It’s the question that Googled you to many...
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A Psychic Told Me To Leave My Relationship
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard or read some version of the following email that I recently received (published here with permission): I am in a loving relationship and engaged. A psychic...
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The Voices in Your Head
Photo by Victoria Russell “There is nothing more important to true growth than realizing that you are not the voice of the mind – you are the one who hears it. If you don’t understand this, you will...
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Great Doubt Great Awakening
I’ll never forget the day I was trying to find a parking spot at our local market and I saw this bumper sticker: Great Doubt Great Awakening Little Doubt Little Awakening No Doubt Fast Asleep – Zen...
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Love and the Fear of Flying
It’s 2:20 am. We’re on a red-eye flight on our way back from a family vacation when the captain announces, in a very calm but urgent voice, that all passengers must fasten their seatbelt. Nearly...
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Mentors and Guides
We’re not meant to travel life’s pathways alone. In other times and other places, a culture’s members are guided through life’s transitions and trials by the elders who have already traveled that...
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The Need for Certainty
Last Tuesday we were riding our bikes in gorgeous, 70-degree spring weather. On Wednesday we woke up to a foot of snow and a power outage. There’s a saying in Colorado that goes, “If you don’t like the...
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18 Principles of Conscious Transitions
People often ask me how they can break through their anxiety if they can’t afford one of my courses. My response is to suggest that they read through my blog from beginning to end, as my posts contain...
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Anxiety and Numbness
I often receive a version of the following email: “Is indifference a sign of relationship anxiety? My partner and I haven’t seen each other in two weeks and I feel nothing. I’ve shut down. I don’t care...
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Hang On
At the end of one of the interviews in the E-Course, when I asked the interviewee what she would like to say to those who are still in the trenches of relationship anxiety, she responded quite simply...
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“I Wish He Was Funnier”
Oh, the list of thoughts that try to prevent us from taking the risk of loving wholeheartedly is quite long, but there are a few that always top the list, buzzing and darting in and around your ears...
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Nature as Guide
It is with great love, admiration, and appreciation that I’m sharing this beautiful post by Sarah Love, one of our moderators on the Break Free From Relationship Anxiety/Conscious Weddings E-Course...
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The Life You’re Meant to Live
Somewhere along the road of childhood into adolescence, a belief is transmitted that says: Follow the roadmap that culture presents and you will find a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. This...
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Relationship Anxiety: Intuition or Fear?
A subset topic of the million-dollar question – is my anxiety/doubt evidence that my truth is that I’m with the wrong partner or does it mean something else? – is the issue of intuition versus...
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Call the Witch by Its True Name
My favorite fairy tale when I was a child was Rumpelstiltskin, the story of a girl who makes a bargain with an imp-like creature in exchange for saving her life from being executed by the king. First...
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If I’m Calm Now Is It Still Relationship Anxiety?
There is often a predictable arc to relationship anxiety that includes three stages.* The first stage is characterized by typical symptoms of anxiety and panic: Can’t sleep Can’t eat Tearful Depressed...
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The Critical Moment to Break Free From Relationship Anxiety
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” – Viktor E. Frankl If we could slow life down to...
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When It’s Time To Say Enough
For those of you who are struggling with relationship anxiety, you probably saw the title of this post and wondered if I was going to talk about when to leave a relationship, and perhaps felt nervous...
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Something is Wrong
Fear-mind has a special genius for trying to prove that it’s right. It’s like we all have this aspect of our personality – some call it ego, other call it lower self – that has secretly attended law...
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The Critical Moment to Break Free From Relationship Anxiety
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” – Viktor E. Frankl If we could slow life down to...
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