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When It’s Time To Say Enough
For those of you who are struggling with relationship anxiety, you probably saw the title of this post and wondered if I was going to talk about when to leave a relationship, and perhaps felt nervous...
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Something is Wrong
Fear-mind has a special genius for trying to prove that it’s right. It’s like we all have this aspect of our personality – some call it ego, other call it lower self – that has secretly attended law...
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Flags Versus Red Flags
One of the most common questions I’m asked during a coaching session is, “What are red flags? You say that if I’m suffering from relationship anxiety and I’m in a healthy and secure relationship...
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What is “The Work” of Breaking Free From Anxiety?
A coaching client recently said to me, “You talk a lot about doing “the work”, and I wondered for so long what “the work” was. I thought that if I understood anxiety intellectually I would feel better....
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The Critical Moment to Break Free From Relationship Anxiety
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” – Viktor E. Frankl If we could slow life down to...
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When It’s Time To Say Enough
For those of you who are struggling with relationship anxiety, you probably saw the title of this post and wondered if I was going to talk about when to leave a relationship, and perhaps felt nervous...
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Something is Wrong
Fear-mind has a special genius for trying to prove that it’s right. It’s like we all have this aspect of our personality – some call it ego, other call it lower self – that has secretly attended law...
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Am I the Only One Struggling with Anxiety?
People often ask me why they’re struggling with relationship anxiety or social anxiety or any other kind of anxiety when other people seem to glide through life more effortlessly. The subtext embedded...
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How the Superhero of Shame Rescues us From this Life-or-Death Matter
At the core of most, if not all, intrusive thoughts and obsessions is the question of enough. It can show up as: • Do I love my partner enough? or • Did I wash my hands enough? But what you’re really...
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The Fear of Death is Another Core Element of Anxiety and OCD
As I wrote about recently, at the core of anxiety and OCD lives the fear of death: either literal death or social death (humiliation, being shunned, rejected, losing your place of belonging). If we’re...
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The 80% Rule about Relationships Has been Verified!
Our recent wedding anniversary When I had Covid last year, I watched several episodes of Indian Matchmaking. I’m always interested in shows about relationships (for obvious reasons), and I’m especially...
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Healing Shame is One of the Keys to Healing Anxiety
Years ago, I wrote a post called You Are Loved, which I then recorded and included in several of my courses (and on this page). The post begins: If you knew you were fully loved, if you knew that you...
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A Major Relationship Pitfall that People Don’t Discuss
We carry so many faulty beliefs and expectations about romantic love. Thanks to Hollywood and Disney, we carry an expectation that love should be easy. We think we should meet, fall in love, and live...
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Let’s Debunk One of Shame’s Greatest Lies
If there’s one message that runs throughout my work on anxiety it’s this: You are not broken. Anxiety is not evidence of disorder but of exquisite, beautiful sensitivity gone awry. The belief that...
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From what I can see, change hinges on three variables: Unconditional acceptance of who you are. A deep commitment to your inner work. A supportive guide and/or community to walk you through the portals...
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This is the #1 Reason Why People are Terrified to Turn Inward
As much as you want to change and heal, as much as you long to feel more fullness, aliveness, calm, and well-being, as much as you deeply desire a way to navigate life with more ease and less...
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